Friday, October 20, 2017

There's still time to redeem the day!

All week I’ve been reminiscing about this week 10 years ago.  My boyfriend and I were finishing up our Argentine Tango lessons.  That same boyfriend and I also had a trip out to California for me to meet his best friend.  We flew to San Fran and had the best weekend exploring the bay area with his friend.  Little did I know, that I would come back with a little something extra too.  You see, my sweet boyfriend had this rather elaborate plan to propose to me on the beach.  With a kite.  I kept wondering why he seemed so obsessed with flying a kite while we were in CA.  I mean, you can fly a kite anytime, anywhere right?!?  

Well, his plan worked out perfectly with the help of his friend.  Halfway through the weekend he got down on one knee on that beach after the ring had made its way down the kite string to my hand and asked me to marry him.  Of course, I said yes!  Since I had been thinking about it a lot this week, I wanted to make today memorable and sweet for our little fam.  Because if it weren’t for this day 10 years ago, none of us would be here in this place, right?  Well, I guess I did that.  I made it memorable.  Not in the way I had meant to though…

You see, this morning as my husband was about to leave for work, he came back inside asking where his passport was because he needed it for some travel he has coming up next year.  Well….of course I thought I knew where it was.  But he came back in as I was just finishing up my shower.  My lovely, hot, shower that helps start my day off right?!?  I wasn’t exactly in the thinking or remembering where I put all the important things mindset though.  So….instead of calmly telling him where it was, or just getting it for him?  I kind of…just…lost my mind.  Well, not really, but I frantically dried off, tied my towel around myself and ran to the spare room where all the things are supposed to be.  Basically looking like a chicken with its head cut off.  I told him a couple places to look and I tore things apart trying to find it quickly… forward ten minutes and we still have yet to find it.  He found a copy of it and took that with him to work, while I continued the search.  I turned everything over, opened every file, touched every paper we own, before looking in the first place I had told him to look.  And sure enough?  That’s where it was.  Right there, neatly tucked in an envelope. 
I could have been upset that he didn’t see it the first time, but really?  I was just glad that I knew where it was!  I texted him and we both sighed a sigh of relief!
close -up, desk, hat
Isn’t that just how life is sometimes?  We think about, or plan to make something memorable in a good way, and the opposite happens?  Or we overlook things that are right in front of us?  Or we treat the ones we love the most in the worst ways sometimes? 

Thankfully, my husband is quick to forgive and I am learning to be quick to seek forgiveness.  As much as God has forgiven us, how much more should we forgive others after all?  Thankfully, this also isn’t the end of our story. (At least as far as I know, it’s not.)  I can still redeem the rest of the day with my husband and son.  I can still make it memorable in a good way.  There’s still time.  Just like there’s still time to receive Christ if you haven’t already.  There’s still time to ask God for the  forgiveness that He is more than willing to give.  There’s still time to seek the Maker of us all.  There’s still time to love those you love, well.  Even when you make mistakes, or lose your temper, or temporarily lose your mind.  There’s still time, friends.  Ask for forgiveness.  Forgive.  Admit wrongs.  Love well.  You're a good mom, wife, daughter, sister, husband, son, father, etc...despite your downfalls.  

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

What exactly is so tragic about someone taking their own life?

I am pretty sure we can agree that this a tragic story. I didn't know either of them. I don't know what their beliefs were. I imagine Mr. Kennedy felt some survivors guilt, and obviously a lot of pain from losing his girlfriend. (Who wouldn't?!?)

Was that a reason to take his own life though? No.
Was that a reason to cause how many more people grief? No.
Was it apparently all he could think of to end the pain? Maybe.

But that, that is the tragic part of this story. It's not that he died of a broken heart. It's because he caused himself, or forced himself to die of a broken heart. He didn't even give his family, or friends a chance to help him grieve. He didn't give himself a chance to grieve and rebuild his life. Since I don’t know him, I can’t say whether he believed in God, or Heaven, or the saving work of Jesus Christ. But I’m willing to guess, he didn’t.

You see, if we just look at the things of this world, all the sad, horrible things that happen on a daily basis. All the death, destruction, sickness, etc. going on and have no hope except in our own abilities and strength. If we only believe that this life is it. How depressing is that?!? If this is our one shot, and something goes wrong, where can you really go? BUT, what if this isn’t all there is?

What if there is a Creator who designed us in His own image?
What if there is hope?
What if there is heaven?
What if there is a reason to live?
What if there is a way out, or better yet, a way through?

What if all the pain and brokenness is not pointing away from God, but instead pointing us right Him? We live in a sinful, broken world—yes. But, that’s not the end game. This isn’t it friends! This is only the beginning.

For ALL have sinned and fall short of the glory of God and the wages of sin is death. But God loved the world so much He gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. God demonstrated His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 3:23, 6:23, John 3:16, Romans 5:8)

Bad things still happen, death and sickness still happen but when you have Jesus you have hope to get through. We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His Purpose. (Romans 8:28) If Mr. Kennedy had this hope I am speaking of, I believe he’d still be around today. And that is why this story is tragic, and why we need to share the gospel of Jesus Christ every chance we get. It’s a life or death issue. Where is your hope?

If you or someone you know is contemplating taking their own life please reach out. Seek Help. Call the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. Reach out to a local friend or Church. Talk to someone. You matter. Your life matters. Another post from around this time last year.