Whenever we try to find our identity or worth in something other than where it truly is we come up short. It doesn’t matter what you do. If you’re working mom, a stay at home mom, a career professional, a pro athlete, a student, an avid reader or playwright. When you look to things that are temporary for your worth and identity it will always come up short. There will always be someone who is smarter, faster, more talented, more successful or better than you. And that doesn’t actually matter. There will also be scores of people who are worse than you, which also doesn’t matter.
Do you know what does matter? Eternity. Eternity matters.
Do you know whose opinion matters? Hint: it’s not your teachers, bosses, friends, coaches or even your parents. It’s God.
You know the best part though? Is that God already loves you. There isn’t anything you could do to take that away. There isn’t anything you could do to earn it.
Before I have some angry mamas or papas writing me. Of course, their opinion matters, to some extent. At the end of the day, at the end of our lives (whenever that comes) there is only one who holds it all—and it is His opinion that matters and inevitably what you decide to do with it that will determine your eternity.
There are two options:
1. Believe His opinion of you, cherish it and put your faith in Jesus’ life, death and resurrection which was the ultimate way for God to show His love for us.
2. Reject it.
When we choose option 1, we accept God’s opinion as the only one we strive for and listen to. We’re daughters and sons of the King! We’re beautiful, cared for, loved and full of hope for the future. We know that we'll spend our eternity with Him. Option 2 is a lot more grim, relying on this world to satisfy which it never could even come close to doing and being separated from God forever.
- When we look to this world to make us feel loved, we may feel that way for a while but it is always fleeting. People will disappoint.
- When we look to this world for encouragement, it all fades too.
- When we look to this world for enjoyment, there is only the temporary game, book, movie or relationship…
- When we look to this world for our value, we realize we are easily dispensable.
- When we look to this world for acceptance, that too is only temporary, with strings attached.
- When we look to this world for answers, we come up with far more questions.
There are things we can definitely enjoy while spending our time on this earth-definitely. I’m talking about where we find our identity, our worth and our true sense of joy. It’s when we look on the face of God through His word that things start to come together. We realize:
- We have purpose. (Eph. 2:10, Hebrews 11)
- We have strength. (Phil. 4:13, Eph. 3:14-19)
- We are seen and known. (Psalm 139, Luke 12:6-7)
- We are loved. (John 3:16, Eph. 3:17-19)
- We have hope and a future. (Jer.29:11, Rom. 8:28)
- We are not alone. (Josh. 1:8-9, Rom. 8:31-38)
- We have identity in Christ. (Gal. 2:20, John 1:12)
I’m a woman, a daughter, a sister, a wife and a mom – yes. But I’m first and foremost a child of God. A Christian. I’m a sinner saved by grace, who has been forgiven and blessed more than I could ever imagine by the Creator the Universe. When I look to this world or what I do to fulfill me, it will always disappoint. When I look to God and who He says I am, there I find my identity. My joy. My hope. My life.
Whether or not you get that promotion. Whether or not you make the sales quota. Whether or not you get into the school you wanted to. Whether or not you make it Pro. Whether or not you get married or have kids. Whether or not you _____________. You are loved. You are known. You matter. Life will always have ups and downs friends, but when we find our identity in Christ rather than this world, it makes it all a lot more bearable!