Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Let's build up instead of tearing down: Part 2

I think we could all use some building up instead of tearing down, right?  Right?  If you'd like to read just why I decided to write this now, please read the Exposition and Part One here.


So when we see a friend hurting (whether it is from emotional, relational or physical pain), let's say an encouraging word, pray with them and maybe even offer to bring dinner over.  Please don't tell them "God will only give you what you can handle" because that is a lie.  In fact, it says more than once in the Bible that He will give us more than we can handle so we have to rely on Him and His strength.  (Check out Desiring God's post on this)

When we see a tired mom, let's tell her she's doing a great job, offer encouragement (not judgement) and maybe also offer a prayer, coffee, meal or even offer to help around her house (or watch the kids depending how well you know each other!).  Please don't tell her she looks tired.

          But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.  2 Corinthians 12:9

When you see a friend struggling to conceive, or maybe who has lost a baby, let's pray with them, offer to go to appointments with them (if they are comfortable with that or you are already very close), talk with them or just hang out with them.  And of course, meals are always nice especially depending what they are currently going through.  Please don't offer advice or share what you think the next step is, or sometimes even what you did when you went through that unless they ask.  

          Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.  Proverbs 31:30

When you see an empty-nester, offer kind words, ask them about their kids, offer to take them out to coffee or offer a prayer.  Please respect them, they have been here longer than the rest of us and they know a whole lot more too.

          ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’?  So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.  Matthew 19:5-6

When you see Newly-Weds, offer them congratulations, encouragement and a prayer.  Please don't give them advice or talk about marriage in a negative light.

          And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.  Hebrews 10:24-25

When you see a single mom (or dad) offer an encouraging word, offer to bring dinner or help with the kids or an oil change/something around the house.  

When you see a working mom, offer a word of encouragement, offer to help with dinner or housework so she can have more time with her little ones, offer her a prayer and your support.  DO NOT make her feel bad for making a different choice than you possibly did.  She may have to work, she may want to work, she may like to work, whatever the case.  Let's show her encouragement!  Remember the Proverbs 31 wife worked!

When you see an elderly person, offer to help, open a door and pray with them.  Perhaps even invite them over for dinner and listen to what they have to say.

          A gray head is a crown of glory; It is found in the way of righteousness.  Proverbs 16:31

When you see a college student, offer encouragement, a prayer and maybe even a home cooked meal.

          We can make our plans, but the LORD determines our steps.  Proverbs 16:9

When you see a mom with {what you would consider a lot of} kids, encourage her, comment on how lovely her children are, what a blessing they are--because they are!  (just ask anyone who has had trouble conceiving or is single and desperately wants to be a mother)  Please DO NOT comment on how many children there are or ask if they are all "hers" or "natural" or anything else that may tear her down.  

            I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.  Psalm 139:14

Let's build each other up friends.  We only have once chance at life.  We can offer each person we come into contact with either grace and encouragement or the opposite.  Which would you rather receive?

I, for one, would love to receive encouragement and an extra heaping of grace.  Because after all, this mama runs on coffee and a whole lotta grace!  

If you are in Colorado, or have lived here for any amount of time in the last 20 years you may be familiar with a popular News Anchor named Kyle Dyer.  You also may wonder why I am bringing her up in this post.  If you are familiar with Kyle, you know she always tries to have a positive impact on everyone she comes into contact with.  I don't know what her beliefs are, but I sure don't know many people, let along Journalists who have that philosophy.  I think we all could learn something from her perspective.  She just announced this week that she is leaving channel 9, and I am interested to see what she does next!  

No comments:

Post a Comment