Sunday, April 1, 2012

If I had my life to live over...

I used this title because it is quite possibly my favorite little pieces of writing ever.  It was written by Erma Bombeck wrote it back in 1979.  I have always enjoyed reading her articles because she has a quirky sense of humor.  This still has that humor but it is more on a solemn note...  (You can find lots of versions of this online btw.)

If I had my life to live over...

I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the "good" living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather rambling about his youth.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have burned the pink candle sculped like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television, and more while watching life.

I would have gone to bed when I was sick, instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment, realising that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner."

There would have been more "I love you's" and more "I'm sorry's"

. . . but mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute . . . look at it and really see it . . . and never give it back."
-- Erma Bombeck

Now, this piece doesn't completely apply to me yet...but I really like the point of it.  I like the fact that it encourages me to live every moment to its fullest and really be in the moment.  I find myself so often thinking about (and planning, or at least trying to plan) for our future.  I sometimes think I get so lost in the "what ifs" of the future that I miss the present.  And that's a shame.  I'm still going to plan for the future, but I'm going to do my best to live in the present.  What happened in the past is done, what's going to happen in the future is not here yet.  So I will live in the present and enjoy every minute of it.  :)

That said, J is finishing up revisions for a paper that is getting published soon which is great.  He also received a Departmental recognition for the Month of March where he got a plaque as well as a special parking spot for that month.  J is also working on a couple of fellowship apps that are due in the coming weeks.  All is a go for him going to Germany and giving a talk at a conference.  And since I won't be able to go to Germany with him, I'm going to make a visit to Colorado this summer!  Which I am super excited about!

I just received my annual evaluation at work yesterday and it was WAY better than I thought.  Not that I don't think I work hard at work, I do.  It's just that sometimes I feel like it is all so futile...  I guess not though, because my boss gave me a sparkling (is that even appropriate for this instance?) review and I'm even more excited and pumped to give work my all now.  I've also been given some more responsibilities in the department which is cool.


  1. I tend to plan ahead for the future and miss being in the moment as much too--an unfortunate thing as my babies keep growing and you don't get a re-do!